Bad Boy Syndrome
You’re such a sweetheart, why are you putting up with an idiot like him? You deserve so much better. Sounds familiar? Have you ever wondered why girls are attracted by the “bad boys” instead of the good ones out there? Guys who ask you out on a date and then don’t bother showing up the very next day, with no apology or explanation, or the ones who get into pointless brawls every now and then just because it makes them look macho. If you are into a guy who possesses all these qualities and if you would have to think ten times before introducing him to your parents even if just as a friend, then I think it’s safe to say you are suffering from bad boy syndrome!
Most women who have been in relationships with such guys very well know that they are not worth being trusted and that they are nothing but trouble yet find them so appealing and irresistible. They blind fold themselves from the harsh reality, and take them on as a challenge in the hope of changing them for the better. When they fail to do so or get played in the process, they are heartbroken and go into major depression. Some of the stronger ones ignore it and move on, others cry it out or start taking pills and some even cut their selves because they feel physical pain is easier to bear than the emotional distress that they are facing. The truth however is that they brought it upon themselves and they have nobody else to blame. They so had it coming and even they know it deep down inside. Why is this so? There are so many nice guys out there, why go for the ones that will make you miserable every step of the way?
A Temporary delusion of supremacy: When a woman gets into a relationship with a trouble maker, she usually does so in the hope of changing him. Bad boys don’t really give a shit about what’s right or wrong, they just do whatever they feel like whenever they feel like it. This behavior is strongly appealing to a woman because if she is successful in taming him even if only for a little while it gives her a feeling of superiority. She feels that she has the power to bring about positivity in her guy! This however is just temporary because she never actually had real control over anything. The guy will go back to being exactly what he was very soon. As it is said once a bad boy always bad boy!
Similar personality traits: A girl who may have been disturbed in the past due to various reasons may go for a guy with a similar past because she feels she may be able to connect with him better. A rebellious guy is always crossing the line and breaking rules and for girl with a similar personality it may come as a wild, untamed adventure that gives the misconception of thrill, freedom and getting her way. Only once she falls off the edge will she realize that it was not always wise to get her way and there is no fun in being on the run 24/7!
Low self esteem: A woman who has low self esteem will be attracted to a guy who brings out and encourages the negative attributes in her. She will believe that is not worthy of being treated better than she already is or respected because she feels she is no better than the bad boy himself.
Relationships she has learnt from as a child: If the girl has grown up in a stable environment and has seen successful and happy relationships around her, she is more likely to want the same for herself. But if she has seen a lot of relationships around her that have gone wrong, she may not want a stable relationship at all which could be why she chose to go for a bad boy! Only a bad boy would be satisfied with an unstable relationship because he is only in it to fool around.
The thrill of the challenge: We all have heard of the term “hard to get”. Facts a fact we all enjoy the challenge and pulling a few strings here and there. Bad boys are over-confident about the fact that they are better than everybody else and that they don’t need anyone’s help. This provides an opportunity for a woman to prove them wrong and that is the thrill that women just can’t get over again and again!
There is not much that I can say because I’m sure we have all been down this road once or twice in our lives. But I will say make your decisions wisely because you can’t change what happened in your past but you can control how your future will turn out to be. Bad boys may be very appealing but you will regret your decision so give the good ones a chance..!