Confusion or bad character ?
Isn’t the state of confusion a part of everybody’s life be it a girl or boy? We all go through it don’t we? People are indecisive and make the wrong choices from time to time but is it a crime to correct your mistake when you realize it? Confusion and indecisision are a part of human nature after all.
Why is it that when a girl goes through a state of confusion in a relationship she is labeled or tagged with the title of a girl of bad character and when a guy goes through the same phase he is just titled as the player and encouraged?
Don’t you think it is important to get to know someone before getting involved in a relationship and only way to do that is by spending time with them? Before you decide who you want to spend the rest of your life with you should be aware of their negative and positive personality traits. Rushing into a relationship or marriage with someone you barely even know is the perfect recipe for a disastrous relationship or an unhappy and unsuccessful marriage.
Why are relationships condemned? Why do people consider it wrong for two people of the opposite sex to socialize and get to know each other before marriage even if they know and keep to their limit? Usually when a girl gets into a relationship and tries to get to know him she is discouraged and disapproved of. How will she know if she is compatible with him or not if she does not interact with him? How is it wrong for her to call it off if she feels he is not the right guy for her?
Sometimes when you’re in a relationship you do want to end it because it is not working out for you. There is nothing wrong with that. At times you can even get attracted to two people at the same time and this applies to both girls and boys. It is called being confused. To take your time to figure out what you actually want while being honest about the situation is no crime.
And when you decide what you actually want to do, being honest and breaking it off with the ones you’re unhappy with, is the right thing to do. It is better than lying and living your life in misery. By being honest, you can move on with your life while doing justice to your partner at the same time.
What is wrong with being confused? Doesn’t everyone go through this phase? Why is it okay for a man to walk out of a relationship regardless of the reason but not for a woman to do the same? In your opinion, is being indecisive or double minded a crime or is it perfectly normal?