So you are the youngest?
So you are the youngest in your family. Often so the last child is seen facing two opposing positions within the family. Either you remain the baby of the family, receiving love and care throughout your life, too much of which also cripples your ability to make it on your own Or, you become the punching bag where all that goes wrong is blamed on you, caused by you and is expected to be fixed by you. If you happen to be belonging from the latter, this article would sound familiar.
Ever come across scheming siblings who fill up your parent’s ears on their daily dose, intoxicating their minds against you.
“I really don’t like his/her friends!”
“This is not the time he/she should be getting back home!”
“Oh I think you should be strict with him/her, look at the attitude, so getting out of control!”
At times your elder siblings can be the result of a lot of unnecessary drama and pressure on your life. If things go wrong with them, normally they get away by blaming it on you. When parents or guardians see this happening they don’t always correct the elders, thinking the level of respect you hold for them would get affected. But in reality such biased treatment affects adversely on one’s psyche and emotional stability.
The parents often reply back saying “Oh you become the elder one and let it go.” That is one thing which worsens the case even more. Try putting your foot down at a time when you think that certain biased treatment is held on a regular basis which is causing you distress. If your elders don’t know when they are getting out of line, never be afraid to politely correct them later, or ask a close relative to help.
Normally we are told that withholding family matters is wise. It may be but such is not always the case. When things do get really out of control accountability can set things right for everyone.
There are also cases when acquaintances or some uncles/aunts can stir up unnecessary menace within a family. They often leave trailing thoughts and ideas which can affect impressionable minds, often resulting them to voice out ideas which are baseless and completely out of line.
It is ideal for elders to be supportive towards the youngest. Even if you hold high endurance, towards unjust behavior it should not mean that family members exploit their position and keep pushing the threshold.
Step up against oppression. Speak your mind. If you keep at it somebody they will notice and keep others in check.