Consequences of Restrictions
Parents constantly complain about their children; it is a never ending affair. Have parents ever thought about how much they are responsible for the things their children do? Isn’t it obvious, when you are burdened with countless restrictions, you would want to rebel and break free from them? Wouldn’t you want to fight for your freedom and independence, or the choice to make your own decisions?
Children with extremely conservative parents many times indulge in immoral and harmful activities more than the children of parents who balance out the rules that they have enforced upon their kids. The extremism of such situations never leads to positivity.
Putting too many or no restrictions at all on your child is not the way to bring them up. A child who is brought up with good values and who has been blessed with parents who know how much freedom to allow and where to draw the line is most likely to turn out to be a balanced and well behaved adult.
When a parent restricts a child from everything that they ask consent for, there will come a time when the kids will eventually stop asking for permission and start doing things behind their back or they will start to constantly rebel in order to break free and lead a life they consider to be close to normal.
A girl whose parents enforce the head scarf on her, even though she cannot make any sense of it whatsoever will discontinue the practice outside of her own home. She may wear it in front of her family to please them and as soon as she steps out she will discard it. In a way she would be deceiving her parents. She may also rebel and argue against it which will then get her into trouble and affect her relationship with her parents.
A boy who may come from a very conservative family and is not allowed socializing in a mixed gathering may break that barrier through rebellion. He could start lying to his family members and take undue advantage of the trust that they bestow on him. Usually this leads to worse consequences and the child could also indulge in highly inappropriate moral behavior.
In some cases children of highly conservative parents also go into depression or face major personality disorders due to the intensity of control that they face at home. Parents who allot their children a certain level of freedom and independence are less likely o face this problem as they would be able to maintain a strong bond with their child and incase the child is about to falter, the parents can show him/her the right path. Maintaining a balance is highly essential to raising well brought up children.
Why do parents restrict their children from pointless things? Why is our society so conservative and scared of what other people think? Is what society thinks more important to you than your child’s happiness? Why can’t a balance be maintained?